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Saturday, November 20, 2010

Unhooked in a Divorce Culture

Maybe it's the grayness that the overcast November days present, or just that we Colorado folks are spoiled by the most days of sunshine, that gloom and doom rears an ever vigilant notice to threaten any serenity we had. I don't know but it sure seems apparent that most everyone is processing a bummer of some sort, and some even get stuck in the depressive side of the problem/opportunity that is bumming them out.

Then, on top of it all, baby boomers are still getting blamed for cultural norms now.  I've been reading about the divorce stats in the US, and the US census estimates that 1/2 of all marriages end up in divorce. There is divided opinion of the divorce rates with boomers, it is nicknamed the "gray divorce, the late life divorce, and  the silver divorce."  Some say there are more divorces, others say that the divorced are now boomers.  Al and Tipper Gore seemed to highlight the topic by there amicable divorce announcement after 40 years of marriage. . . yup, they grew apart.

Then there are the rants about the baby boomer generation and how the values (free love, drugs, rock n roll) of the once hip time screwed up the next gens, broke with the traditional marriage mores, and made divorce more acceptable and common.  Oh, also we of the baby boomer generation are blamed for the pre-nuptial agreements made so fashionable today.  Yadda yadda okay, our generation did make way for some change, but that's not to say it was all bad!

I read that relationship difficulties are prevalent in our generation.  This may be so because we did learn to question traditions - religious, marital, educational, military, etc.  Once that started, it landslided into The Times They are a Changin'.  Change is the only constant, so we might as well celebrate it, and keep questioning it.  Relationships are ever challenging, and monogamy may not be the answer to loving.

There's some interesting insights in Unhooked Generation . It is an enlightening book that reveals why singles can't seem to make their relationships last.It is available in hardcover, paperback and for the Nook (nookable?).  I first read it when I was writing a VIP paper for one of my lit classes, actually a critical essay for a book that I had to argue something about, and I kept it.  Although it is written about the Gen-Xers, there is something to be gleamed in it for any generation.  It helps those overcast days lighten up somewhat.

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